Wednesday, 4 February 2015

Who's The Head of The Household? Man or Woman?

Over the weekend, one of my cousins came with my husband and I to church. Unlike us both, he has not grown up in a family that attended church every Sunday so he had a lot of questions after the service. 

In the car on the way home he asked me, “ Does it offend you that the church and the Bible is sexist, like, how they believe the man is the head of the house?”
I was actually excited that he asked this question, because I believe it is something that a lot of people take the wrong way, and here is why…

In life, everything flows better when there is an order. Companies function better when there is a distinct hierarchy, and when employees know who they answer to and who they do not. There is the food chain, where animals are prey to some and predators to others, and there are many other examples such as the king/queen/prime minister/ president of a country, or even just the coach of a sports team. Without order, there is anarchy.

Families are the same. If the children are in charge of their parents it would be chaos, wouldn’t it. But that doesn’t mean that children are any less important than their parents. In fact, children are extremely special and highly regarded in our society, and also in the bible. In Psalm 127:3-5 it says, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.”

But if children are so special, then why aren’t they allowed to be in charge, or to be number one in their family? Seems like a silly question, doesn’t it. We know children are special, but we also know they need the covering, protection, provision, love and guidance of their parents. So why is it that when people read Ephesians 5:23 (“For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Saviour.”) or 1 Corinthians 11:3 (“But I want you to realise that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.”) they automatically assume that the church, the Bible and God do not value women to be as special as men?

Proverbs 31:10 speaks of how a noble wife is worth far more than rubies, and if you continue reading Ephesians 5, which I quoted above, it says that husbands are to love their wives, “just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
Whoa. How can you say that God does not value women when he commands husbands to love their wife so much that they must be willing to lay their life down for her!?

It is because of this that I love that my husband is the head of my household. But also because I know that it does not stop at him – for his head is Christ, whose head is God.

This article was originally posted on Over The Moon Magazine

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