Friday, 27 March 2015

Why I Choose To Believe My Family Is Perfect


I think my family is great. They are fun, generous and caring and I love them. But, sometimes, they are also rude, annoying and selfish and I still love them.

I find it so sad when I am telling someone something negative that has happened in my family and they feel the need to retaliate with, “Oh, that’s nowhere near as bad as my family. I have an uncle/aunty/cousin/parent/etc. who is the same as yours, but worse. They…” 

I admit, I am guilty of this myself, and it is something that I have become aware of, and am working on, but, since when did family issues become a competition? 

Since when did it become not okay to share your concerns about your family, to get things off your chest, without the person you are confiding in trying to ‘out-do’ you?

When did it become fashionable to have the saddest, sickest, or most dysfunctional family?

You think your family is ‘worse’ than mine?
Good! (Well, good for me and my family, not particularly for yours.)
I don’t want my family to be ‘the worst’ – I want them to be healthy, to be happy, to be looked up to.

We always say things to one another, such as, “You’re so lucky. I wish my parents got along as well as yours.”
Yet, to another we say, “You think your parents fight? The other day my parents had a fight that was so bad they…” - Make up your mind! What do you want?
It is possible to listen to someone, and to be there for them during family struggles, without having to put your own family down and, greater still, without demeaning that person’s own concerns.
Yes, your family may have some serious issues – every family does.

There is always going to be someone in this world who is in a more desperate situation that you are currently in, and, while it is important to deal with our own family issues, it is also important to remember that your family is great – without them, you wouldn’t be the person you are today, and without you, the world would be a little less fun.


Ephesians 4:29
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”



This article was originally posted on Over The Moon Magazine

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